presents for her, and some could have interpreted the decision as an attempt to avoid holiday responsibilities at the last minute.
October 20th offered a reasonable compromise.
Christmas was close enough that everyone was beginning to think about shopping, but there was still plenty of time for relatives to adjust their own plans.
She wanted to communicate the change before anyone spent money based on the assumption that the old tradition would continue.
She also understood that family conversations could become emotional when people felt surprised or excluded. By giving
