not make special arrangements for spouses or quietly buy extra gifts for the relatives she saw most frequently.
This consistency helped prevent misunderstandings.
If she had continued buying gifts for selected adults, other relatives might have wondered why they had been excluded. By applying the same rule to everyone, she made it clear that the decision was about simplifying her holiday routine rather than ranking relationships.
At the same time, she did not attempt to control what other family members did.
If two adults wanted to exchange gifts privately, they
